Law of Attraction Simplified

After constant-every-day thought I finally decided what the best approach to the law of attraction is and I’d like to share it.

The idea of the law is excellent, and it does work, but you have to work also, and work quite hard that is (note: understand that the work doesn’t necessitate the gaining of the object of desire, the work is the remembering how to do it). The good thing is that after a while (taken about a year for me) you condition your mind to notice the things that happen that are a result of what you have thought. My mind has been focused on a lot of smaller things lately and those smaller things have happened (or come to me), this increases my already happy state and just proves what I started to learn (remember) in the first place.

It seems that I’m feeling quite content in allowing the smaller things to come to me instead of concentrating on the larger ones, hey, if life (at lower levels) really is the pursuit of happiness I’m already there.

Learn. Find as much literature as you can, read and understand it. Not only will you discover the science behind it but reading such stuff will create positivity in your life if nothing else, this positivity is a building block for you to experience what you have already known (but not to your consciousness yet).

Here is a short list.

· Ask and it is Given – Esther and Jerry Hicks

· Science of Getting Rich - Wallace D. Wattles

· Thought Vibration or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World – William Walker Atkinson

· The Power of Positive Thinking – Norman Vincent Peale

· The Secret – Rhonda Byrne

Do a heap of research online, you will find plenty of material to download and read.

Simplify Your Life. When you stop complicating things you will find it a lot easier to focus and affirmate on what you want, the more you read into things the more clutter your mind will be trying to manage.

Stop it, now.

Are you able to remember the good feeling you get from moving or throwing away a heap of old useless junk? Stop being a packrat and live to your means. If you will not use it in the next 6-12 months, throw it away. Be grateful for what you have and remember, to keep your body (and thus your mind) alive the most basic need is air, food and water. Realise this and build up from it, when you do so you should feel immense happiness and gratitude for what you have and what you have around you.

Allow. Let the object come to you, let the universe bring it to you, relax and allow what is coming to you. Don’t pull the object or rush to obtain it, just let it happen. The idea of this, is simply a confidence builder for your conscious mind, confidence and happiness being a high allowing state. Imagine your mind saying “Hey, nice one, this is already on its way to me”. Do you get the idea?

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished” – Lao Tzu

Always, Always take the time for the beauty around you

I saw this while climbing a tree in a park just southeast of Adelaide. Right now is the perfect time of year to experience nature in its most intriguing form.



Out of the old, weathered, dead branch came an amazing new young shoot.

Old humans can also learn new tricks and they should do so until they are physically and mentally unable to do so.

How to ask a question

I’ve found that a lot of the questions I get asked throughout my day seem to waste a lot of time, when I’m focused on my current task someone asks me a question which distracts me, my thoughts hit a brick wall and I start to refocus on the question that is asked, it happens to everyone, but unless the question is asked with a clear purpose it usually creates nothing but frustration (for me).

I recently read a great paragraph from the Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris. This has changed the way I now expect to receive my questions, this is just a start for me to start demanding the following before you ask me.

Ensure you answer yes to the following two questions.

1. Have I decided on a single meaning for each term in this question?

2. Can an answer to this question be acted upon to improve things?

Although the above two points are generally related to existentialism they can be applied to normal life, especially that of a business. Asking these two questions of the questioner can save you a heap of time. Even better is if the questioner is aware of these two before he or she begins to ask.

However you set these questions up you have to be careful not to alienate the questioner, leave ego out of it and explain that a well structured question will get better and faster results in the long run. Most people will understand be attracted to your way of thinking, and also to the fact that you are asking them to tailor that question towards a goal.

Those that aren’t attracted to your way of thinking, well, not really your problem.

Basically perfect

"If we are basically positive in attitude, expecting and envisioning pleasure, satisfaction and happiness, we will attract and create people, situations, and events which conform to our positive expectations."

Shakti Gawain
Author of Creative Visualization

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Digital DJ

One of my great influences and almost the singular reason that sparked the lifechanging event that was 2007 is an Aussie electro house DJ. He opened a website for electronic music and visual artists in June last year - Digital DJ.

LIKE A FACEBOOK FOR AUSSIE DJ's

Digital-DJ.com.au is about you, and for you. The DJ, the VJ, the performer, the producer, the electronic artist, the lover of music and everyone in between.

He's just started advertising hosting on Digital DJ for musicians with no strings attached. The no strings attached thing interests me, not so much as a 'free' thing to grab but more the psychology behind it. You can see this happen everywhere in this particular generation.

[Digital DJ]

It comes from the premise of Karma I guess (to keep it simple and recognisable). We're here to contribute to society, not take away from it, and thats what's still in most people's heads, especially when it comes to currency.

You may notice that in society most of those that give their all to provide for others aren't incredibly rich but are incredibly happy. It all sounds very 'Disney' and corny but thats just your ego whispering in your head. Ironically enough it's primarily your ego that does want to make other people happy, however the stronger the ego the more you want that happiness to revolve around you, sit back and take stock of why you try to make people laugh, or why you try so hard not to upset another person.

Sure there are exceptions to this rule but thats mainly because different people have a different level of control on their external influences. I guess it comes down to tipping the balance between the conscious and the subconscious and wether or not you are willing to release that control or simply let your life flow.

Perhaps as it was originally intended?

3rd Eye View

Never be as good as the imagination ;)

Third Eye Project

Plan tomorrow tonight. 3 ways to always make your day productive and happy!

When you sleep your subconscious is active (mainly during REM sleep), your mind is relaxed and isn’t clouded with noisy ‘awake’ thoughts. Ideas and affirmations are solidified in your mind. The strange thing is that you aren’t consciously aware of this the next day, it’s just a standard day, but everything seems to go smoothly, you’re spontaneous, efficient, happy and you can focus on your goals easier. Sleep is also a great problem solver, so use it to your advantage.

Plan to plan. Whatever your nightly routine is, try to plan 10 minutes just before you put your head on the pillow, if you spend a bit of time in bed before you actually sleep – reading books, watching television etc – you could use this 10 mins while still in bed.

Visualise. Use the power of your imagination to see what tomorrow will be like, pretend that you are living tomorrow wherever you will be, see yourself how you want to see yourself, making great decisions and results at work, feeling happy etc.

Write. Jot down your goals for tomorrow on a pad (handy to always keep one on the bedside table). When you write something down it’s more concrete than you expect, even if you throw the paper away, it stays in your subconscious. If it’s an objective then your subconscious sees it as such and starts working out solutions and paths to such a goal.

Remember to start small with your plans, just plan to have simple things happen throughout the next day, after a while you’ll get better at planning and start to advance to bigger and better things!

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Personal Development, Canine-Style

I loved this post by Craig Harper, i'm considering getting a cat soon and although they are a very independent animal they still do require attention.

Remember that the key to happiness is not to have other people admire what you have (if you think about that, you may realise that that is one of the major things we strive to succeed for).

The key is to be happy no matter what.

Personal Development, Canine-Style [Lifehack.org]

J.C. Penney’s 7 Keys to a Smashing Success

This is a post from The Positivity Blog

I love point 5.

Books are good. Experience is even better.

I went through a massive reading phase (still am to some extent) and those books gave me great knowledge, it also gave me a bit of a high, and excitement, but that was it, I usually didn't follow through and go out and do the things that the book talked about. Funnily enough most of the books illustrated that instead of just reading, practice, test and evaluate the ideas given.

Don't just read, get out there and make mistakes. Actually do both at the same time, life will be grand!

J.C. Penney’s 7 Keys to a Smashing Success - [The Positivity Blog]

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Improving Yourself By Having Tolerance For Others

Something I have always had trouble with in the past is having tolerance for other people. The level of tolerance always varied depending on how much this person would annoy or insult me.

I realise now (moreso with adults) that this annoyance was 99% unintentional.

Social standing mainly depends upon your verbal interaction and spontaneity, an easy way to increase social standing is simply to 'Make em Laugh', when you inflict a positive emotion on another person they will subconsciously increase their attraction to you - beit friendship attraction or love attraction. As a result of this a huge chunk of our communication is often trying to make people laugh, even to the point when we automatically think 'how can i make a joke out of this' when in a particular situation or social encounter.

This leads to a sort of a desperation for some people to turn anything into an attempt to be funny. Unfortunately this usually results in a response of silence or perhaps animosity from those around him/her. This is an example of tolerance leading to disrespect among his/her peers.

What I have learnt to do is display this level of tolerance, but also let the other person know my true feelings towards the social mishap, this needs a particular level of radical honesty. Truly - from my experiences with this type of circumstance - honesty IS the best policy.

Let them finish. If you interrupt the person half way through their conversation or feat then you will only manage to insult their ego, this means that they will not listen to a constructive word you say. Show tolerance and patience, they will respect you and listen to you more when it's your turn to correct them.

Be as honest as you can be. People's minds are evolving, they are able to handle their emotions and accept critisism a lot easier. If they do seem upset at the time, it's a good chance that they will return to you with apologies and acceptance later on if you are truly honest. Once they see that you are not trying to insult them, rather observe and gently critisise.

See the situation from their viewpoint. Were you once like them? If so it would make it a lot easier to 'be in their shoes'. If not, make use of your creative mind and imagine what it would be like doing or saying the things that they have just said.

Most of the time it's just a case of inexperience which is why we make mistakes in the first place. Know that you had made the same faux pas in the past and realise that your experience now - with the other person's willingness to listen - can allow an accellerated growth of that person.

And becuase of that you will have someone that respects and really listens to you in the future. Always a Win - Win situation.

I'll leave you with an interesting exerpt from a book i'm reading (A.H. Maslow - The Farther Reaches of Human Nature). He references a letter that he received from a religious lady, this is what inspired this article.

God sees and loves us in our present condition and yet sees our potential and requires of us growth toward the potential. As we become more Godlike, can we not too, be accepting of a person in his present state while beckoning to him to take the next step?

How to Make the Time for Your Personal Goals

Another post from ZenHabits.

I've been goal setting recently, the one goal that I have decided to give 90% of my attention to is to gain MCSE* certification by the end of December 2008. This is a big task as to be fully certified takes about 7 exams, which means a hell of a lot of study, something that I haven't done in a long time.

It's been a month and i've devoted myself to about 1 hour of study 6 days a week (sometimes I do a bit more during the week to cover for Saturday. Doing such a small amount in the initial stages of a goal is crucial, the reason is that it builds up a habit. Once I had formed the habit (about 30 days) I could then go up to 2 hours a night (having the time of course) and the task doesn't hit you as hard.

Start small and work your way up. Great key to living life easily.

Anyway, check out this article from ZenHabits, it's about making the time to do those goals. Pay special attention to points 8, 9 and 11.

How to Make the Time for Your Personal Goals

[ZenHabits]

7 Steps to Turn Your Self-Improvement Desires Into Reality

This is a recent post on zenhabits.net

I read a lot of self improvement literature and it's all very exciting and motivating, then I go onto the next book and start something new. So really unless I re-read the books (which I try to do as much as possible) all the information does is make me excited about our capability as humans, as far as putting the words into action it does little.

I've been struggling with myself to actually do the work (which yes, there is a lot of) to put these techniques and ideas into practice. I do know that once I do start practicing them everything will work out fine. I'm just a little lazy.

This post has given me new motivation to set dates and get things done, especially this year.

Check it out!

7 Steps to turn Your Self-Improvement Desires into Reality

[ZenHabits]

How to lose your fear in life

What is holding us back as human beings? Fear. We're afraid to lose, afraid to fail, afraid of humiliation. Yet when we look at other people failing we don't feel the restrictive fear that we feel with ourselves, the one big reason for this is that we see this other person as simply that - another person – the third person perspective. Because the failure is not happening to us we are able to comfortably give advice and assistance (providing we don't become part of the problem and fail ourselves of course), we may feel bad for this person, but we can feel comfortable that at the end of the day this failure isn't happening to us.

When we feel comfortable we are able to think clearly and rationally and come up with tons of solutions to a problem. But when we are in a state of embarrassment or fear or failure our mind becomes clouded, and instead of unleashing our problem solving potential we worry, cry, scream etc (which are all negative emotions in themselves).

What we need to do is regardless of the negative emotion think clearly about your own life and realise that you have nothing to worry about. This technique may seem complicated, but its very easy to simplify, read it, try it, then CREATE your own way of getting results.

Other people have been there before you

We are all human beings – if you really think to basics – just bags of meat with conscious and subconscious abilities. Whatever problem you might be having has most probably been done before by hundreds of thousands of people, no matter how rare it seems, other people have felt depression, fear, anxiety, happiness, joy, love as strong or as weak as you may be feeling it now. Other people have had and lived with strong physical pain, what makes it so difficult for you is that you are first person focused and have trouble looking past (or behind) yourself. Even a selfless person does these deeds to feel good themselves, we can't help it, it's in our nature.

But we are able to change our stance on how we feel the emotions and how we can think around them even if they are happening, if we do this we can make decisions without fear and easily live happily ever after.

Look at yourself from the third person

Most of Generation Y will find this easy as they were the kids that played computer or console games growing up, some of these games required us to control a man (or woman) through levels to collect things, complete missions or battle the character's enemy. Sometimes you controlled the character through the first person – to get a sense that you were really 'in' the game. Other times it was from a third person perspective, the camera situated itself about a metre above and behind the character. You were able to control the character and see its effects in the game. Whatever happened to this character was no real problem to you, you weren't afraid of dying, if you lost all your money then you'd just look around for more (or ways to find more), you had no problem talking to other characters in the game as you knew that you weren't actually talking to them, your character was!

If you could apply this perspective to your real life then you will find that your fear will disappear! All you have to do is just imagine yourself in the third person, then make it seem like you're controlling another person. Simple.

Try a simple exercise.

You are sitting at your computer, try to close any distractions, put on some music that really makes you feel good. Can you imagine what it would be like looking at yourself staring at the computer screen (reading this blog perhaps)? See the back of your head sitting on your shoulders, your arms may be by your side or resting on the desk in front of you. Do this a few times to get the hang of it, don't worry if you can only do it for a second or two, thats all you need. Can you see yourself do any tasks, open a program or book, hold a pen in your hands. If you can do that then the rest of life is easy.

Apply this technique to problems in the real world, you have a nasty break up with a girlfriend/boyfriend, take 5 and imagine yourself looking at yourself arguing or crying or doing things that feel very uncomfortable. If you can see yourself from that perspective then you might have a realisation that everything is not as bad as it seems, you have seen other people go through the same problems.

What about with money? In the game world when you need money you simply find ways of getting more and achieve them. This is exactly the same way in the real world, yet people feel so much fear and it holds them back. See yourself in the third person doing a thing – a legal thing – that might net you some money, an investment perhaps. It's just that much easier controlling a game character to do the thing, so try 'controlling' yourself from the third person. Result? No fear. If you lose money, then you can find another way to gain money. Complicate things less and you will find you are able to think clearer. And thinking is what turns your dreams into reality.

We are all capable of great things, as humans we can do anything, It's those people that are able to shed the fear that really achieve their dreams that they originally had. I have found the third person perspective technique invaluable of instantly removing any fear I may have in any given moment, new job, new house, selling/buying stocks, public speaking. And yet these things are tiny to what other people have achieved, if they can do it so can you.

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My stars for this week

Rip It Up is an Adelaide street magazine which has information about artists, gigs, food, drink and anything social thats happenning. At the back of the mag, they have the most accurate and profound star signs that I've ever read. This week just blew me away:

Last year was a huge education for you, with so much learning and growing that you may feel a little exhausted. The good news is that now you can really shine, armed with your newfound knowledge, skills and inner power and show everyone what you have accomplished. You'll feel more confident than ever.

For those of you who read this blog you'll identify that that is exactly what has been going on in 2007. And this is really paying off already in regards to my personal and professional life.

I'm a Leo by the way :)

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Why do I feel this way at a festival?

I see everywhere that people love being around other people, when around them, the weaker ones are often influenced by the stronger ones, usually those with the best speaking and storytelling ability. Is it the fact that the strong ones are able to deliver a great mind picture? Or is it something that goes beyond conscious ability? Maybe we really enjoy being in large groups to feel what others are feeling or what a group feeling would be like.

Sure by looking at someone's external emotional indicators (facial features, verbal expression) we can determine how they are feeling and react accordingly. But in large groups you can't examine every single person, yet the feeling (or vibe perhaps) is still felt, if enough people feel the same thing. Over the last few months I have seen examples of this and done a small social experiment.

Festivals are a great reason for people to get together and experience this group emotion, they sometimes go to see a lot of their friends in once place, but more commonly go to listen to their favourite music played by their favourite performers. A heap of likeminded people in the one place definitely alters the thoughts of the individual.

Imagine yourself going to one, you get in the gate, perhaps you have to line up for hours or get in instantly, that's your first personal impression (and a most obvious one). You comment with your friends as you enter, if they agree you find happiness that your view is shared by other people, that happiness then projects your other feeling (wether positive or negative). This is then amplified if others are feeling the same thing, think of adding power to a radio transmitter.

Now with this amplified power another group with no knowledge (or feeling) of what is 'in the air' comes with the intention of entering the gates. Their thoughts would be influenced (slightly) by the feelings flying about the air. Our conscious minds are not so much aware of it, but if you sense a change in feeling, maybe you weren't in such a good mood before you arrived, you might feel your mood change for no apparent reason. People come together in these groups to listen to music they enjoy, and to feel the positive emotions that this type of music gives them. Lots of people in one space feeling happy, it just makes sense.

Even if it's a negative type of music, the listeners are brought together to appreciate something that they all enjoy. Enjoyment – Happiness.

Other things can make this gathering a positive or a negative one, but it really has to be felt on a large scale which is why the musicians have so much control over the overall emotion of the crowd. Those who strive to make the crowd happy, perhaps with audience involvement or good acting performance will leave with everyone in the crowd feeling refreshed and having a very high regard for the act.

Next time you go to a club, festival, concert whatever, see if you notice your mood change, ask yourself why it does so. "Oh but it was the energy of the crowd/performer", or "I was drunk with friends". Almost any 'conscious' reason you can give can be attributed to your feelings being suggested by the group emotion.

How to Slow Down Now

Zen Habits has a great (guest written) article on slowing down your life to think more clearly and have better health. The most obvious thing is for stress, but slowing down can have great impact on other things like digestion, idea generating and mastering conversation.

More haste, less speed, or haste makes waste are a well-known sayings. When under pressure, the ability to act slowly and deliberately is a benefit. The wise carpenter measures twice and cuts once. Taking time to read the map instead of blindly heading off in what you guess might be the right direction makes sense.

How to Slow Down Now (Please Read Slowly) - Zen Habits

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